Therefore, differences of opinion over a separate period can be quite beneficial. You probably need to take care of your friends and hobbies. Your partner probably has the same need. Talk about the time you want to spend separately and the activities you want to do. If the problem you are arguing about changes you think of each other or forces you to compromise your beliefs or morals, it is important that you emphasize your position. If not, you should consider your partner`s views on this topic, why he is angry and whether a compromise is appropriate. Try to contextualize your arguments to give each other space to express your feelings. We`ve all read the common cliché after a celebrity split that says some BS like, “We still love and care about each other, but we`re just separated… (p.s., Miley and Liam, if you read this, my heart breaks again!). While there is a lot of truth about relationships that don`t work because they “spread,” it`s something that can be corrected with the right effort and care.
As human beings, we are constantly growing — in their relationship, you can either grow together or divide you. In this study, the authors examined whether the simultaneous links between adolescent outcomes and disagreements with mothers, fathers and best friends vary depending on the quality of the perceived relationship. The participants were 469 youth aged 11 to 18 from a culturally diverse community. Negative qualities of parent-teens and friendships were associated with adjustment problems (aggression, anxiety and depression, crime and detoxification). The positive characteristics of parent-youth relationships have been associated with academic grades and adjustment problems. Non-linear associations between conflicts and adolescent outcomes were modelled by negative relationship qualities, so that the increase in low-to-medium-level conflicts was linked to (a) higher grades for young people in better but no less good quality conditions, and (b) greater crime and withdrawal of youth in lower but no better quality relationships. After a while, he built walls of grudges. He complained about me to other women, as I had betrayed him because he didn`t agree with him, and when it all came out, I was shocked.
Of course, there could be no peaceful solution, because with each disagreement, he was insulted as a hook that was to hurt him.